New Years resolutions. Ah, the bane of every eternal optimists existence. Every new year offers a chance to start over fresh, re-tool our life plans and make this year the one! The year we accomplish everything on our to – do list! Lose 10 lbs! Have clean closets/bathrooms/carpets/muffin pans/whatever!
And for those of you who actually manage to make this happen, kudos to you and let me know when your How-To book comes out and how much caffeine you consumed in the process.
I didn’t make any resolutions this year. In fact, I guess you could say I resolved to Un-Resolution this year. I’ve gotten to know myself pretty well over the last few decades, and I know I’m just setting myself up for failure by making an impressive list of things I feel like I need to do to be a better person, and watching myself go down in flames in a week or two.
So this year, I’m focusing on habits. One habit at a time, and not moving on until the current one is established. Research indicates that it can take up to 37 repetitions to make a habit. And that means successful repetitions. If you want to make a habit of cleaning off your desk at the end of the day, you have to do it 37 consecutive times in a row before that habit is entrenched. If you miss one time, you have to start over. Yikes! No wonder it can take so long to train yourself to make the bed in the morning. Or make it out of bed.
My first habit I wanted to change was daily writing. I’ve been working on that one since before Thanksgiving and I’m pretty happy with the way it’s going. It feels as natural as brushing my teeth now, and occasionally it feels so natural I don’t remember doing it, but the words are there. Also if I don’t do it I behave like an uncaffeinated grizzly bear with PMS, so everyone around me knows I didn’t do it either, kind of like that teeth brushing thing.
How about you folks? Are you in the resolution camp or the un-resolution camp?
I see a lot of you are joining ROW 80! Awesome! Here’s to making some new habits and new friends in 2012!